In last week’s blog, we considered the art of handling conflict. If you are a living human being, you will encounter conflict. It’s not the conflict that is the problem, it’s unresolved conflict that is the problem. Ultimately we aim for a resolution to the conflict and a reconciliation of the relationship. But what if that is not possible? That’s where forgiveness comes in.
In Matthew 18, Peter asks Jesus, “How many times do I forgive? Seven times?” Peter was probably expecting Jesus to commend his response as that was beyond what was expected. Rabbis used to say there was an obligation to forgive three times (Amos 1:3-13). Peter doubled that and added an extra forgiveness for good measure. Imagine Peter’s response when Jesus says “seventy times seven!” Of course, Jesus is not to be taken literally here. He’s not saying to forgive 490 times. Jesus is making the point that we can’t “over-forgive.”
So what exactly does forgiveness look like?
Let’s start with what forgiveness is NOT…
Forgiveness IS…
…bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other, as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. –Colossians 3:13
Ryan Smallwood